Why You Should Get Better at the Art of Mastering Questions

My favorite thing to do in the whole world is to take walks in urban areas. If you know me, you know I love taking walks in Toronto. I love taking walks in London. I love taking walks in Johannesburg. And I love taking walks in New York City. And I’m out here walking and just thinking so much about the work that I do and how meaningful it is to me.

When I started this journey as a psychotherapist, I never thought that I’d be in New York City speaking in front of 5,000 people, like I will at the event that I’m here to speak at tomorrow. And I’m thinking about that journey and how the art of asking questions helped me get here. The reason why I’m able to do some of the things that I’m able to do is because I’ve mastered the art of asking questions.

It’s literally my obsession. Right?

My books are about how to ask questions. My trainings are about how to ask questions.

When you can start asking your clients and yourselves the kind of questions that bring about a brighter future, that illuminate your strengths, resiliencies and resources, bring about hope… your life transforms.
There’s nothing we can do about it, life is hard, and it’s gonna be hard. But if you can bring about hope and resilience and tap into your strength through questions, then you deal with the hardships in a much better way.

It’s a hard thing to really wrap your mind around. But, what if this world isn’t about trying to have a problem free life? What if it’s about using problems as opportunities to show your strength, build your strength, show your resiliencies, tap into your greatness.

The best way to do that is through the art of questions.

I’m so grateful that I was able to spend the time that I’ve spent getting good at asking my clients questions.

And I’m even more grateful at the impact that it’s had on me.

When I became a psychotherapist, I did it thinking about the work I was going to do with clients, and the impact I would have on other people.

I never imagined the impact it would have on me.