Welcome back to Real Talk with Elliott Connie, where I take your questions or talk to people out on the street and try to help you have a better life. And today’s question comes from a man named Mitch, or I assume man named Mitch. And his, his question is, “Any advice on how to deal if you stay alone for the rest of your life?”
And Mitch, that is such a big and important question, and I’m gonna answer it in two ways. Number one, for the time in which you are alone, whether that’s the rest of your life or the next week, next month, next year, you have to find happiness in and of yourself. You have to find love, and, support and value in yourself.
We never want to put it on someone else to make us happy or to make us whole. You gotta be a whole individual in and of yourself if you truly want to have happiness and a joyous life. Now, the other part I will say is, “Don’t lose hope”. I cannot tell you how many people I’ve seen in my clinical practice who were going through a bad breakup or divorce and genuinely believed they were gonna spend the rest of their lives alone, like genuinely believed it. But that’s not usually the case. And you eventually do meet somebody. Somebody does come into your life, someone does make a difference in your life, whether it’s romantically or you meet someone that you just click with and you, they become good friends and they add value to your life. So I would say those two things are very important.
Find a way to just truly find value, happiness, love, and support within yourself. You can actually be your own support system that can make a difference for you, but also don’t lose hope. Life is a mystery. Life is unpredictable. And never know when someone is gonna come into your life and make a difference in your experience to cause you to feel connected, heard, valued, and contribute to the happiness that you have developed on your own.
So Mitch, I hope this helps you. And everyone else watching, I hope this helps you as well. It’s really important to me that everybody have happiness and joy, and I think answering this question the way I did will help provide you with that. So please take that with you and do really well.
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