The Solution Focused lesson in the Marvel Universe [No Spoilers!]

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Years ago, if you had asked me what I’d like my clients to get from seeing me I would have said a solution. These days, my thoughts are very different. These days what is like them to get is much more profound than that and is also the center of Super Hero movies. That’s what this video is about.

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Over the past couple of years. My training and my ideas about the solution focused approach has shifted significantly. When I first learned about solution focused brief therapy, I wanted to learn about the therapy aspect, like how do you use the techniques, how do you do the therapy to impact lives? And then when I watched like the brilliance of some of the leading solution focus people most notably prescribes and my thinking shifted and I wanted to learn about the questions like how was Chris formulating questions that led to people changing. But he recently I’ve been more interested in this idea of like superhero ness and just like the whole world. I’m so enamored with like this marvel universe and every time I watch one of these movies, what blows me away is that all of the characters have superhero traits and no matter what the storyline is that one of the movies, it’s always about like rediscovering their strength and reremembering their power and reigniting their action, moving towards the accomplishment of a goal.

And I think that’s what gets me so jazzed when I watched these movies because I think solution focused brief therapy is the same way. It’s like when I talk about when your client comes into our office, really think of them as a superhero. Like I’m not being hyperbolic. And I’m not even like not saying pretend. Because every client, every person has skills and traits and powers and abilities. And instead of thinking that as you go through life, you encounter problems, I actually now think as you go through life, you encounter moments where you forget how will amazing and powerful and strong you are. And maybe the point of therapy or, or maybe just the point of life is spending time around people who remind you how amazing and important. And, and I don’t know who you are because once you remember those things, then you can take action to overpower and overcome almost any problem that encounters your life.

So instead of thinking about the techniques and the theory, I want you to think about the impact. I want you to think about the way you view your clients, the way you think about the change process and the way you do their capabilities. Because when you view people as superheroes, that’s exactly what they become. And I can’t think of anything better than someone entering into my office and leaving thinking they were a superhero several years ago. If you had asked me what do I want clients to leave my office with, I would have said a solution. But now if you ask me, what do you want my clients I want my class to leave my office with, I would say confidence. I would say belief in themselves and I would say awareness of their superhero list. So, um, go off and, and as you apply this approach in new work, just remember you are talking to someone capable of change when you think about it that way your language will honor and respect their abilities and you can’t help but touch people’s lives.

So thank you for watching this video. I’m super excited here. Pretty soon I’m going to go see this movie too. And I hope that you will watch this movie, but with a little bit of a different Lens this time. And then realize that was, you talked to your clients, you’re kind of, uh, uh, a character in their movie and your job is to awaken them. So please share this video, like this video comment on this video. I would love to hear your thoughts. Thank you for watching. I’ll see you next video. And never, ever forget you were always just one question away from re-awakening someones super hero traits.