The Miracle Within the Miracle Question - Elliott Connie
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The Miracle Within the Miracle Question

January 26, 2019
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Though it doesn’t seem that long ago, it was more than 20 years ago that I learned that every person was a miracle. In this video I share how I learned this lesson and how it became so critical to my work as a Solution Focused professional.

So I’ve got the pleasure today of lecturing at my Alma Mater, a place where I got my degree, a Texas Wesleyan University on it’s lunchtime. So I went for a walk around the campus and this is a funny thing. So I’m quite nostalgic guy. And in this building is where a lot of ways I could even say my solution focused journey started. I was taking a human development class, you know, look young 18 year old kid, freshman in college, taking a human development class. And I remember we were talking about reproduction, you know, human development starting at the point of conception and we were talking about reproduction and they showed like the inside of a woman’s reproductive organs and the Spiderman swinging towards the egg and the egg being fertilized and being released and floating down the tube, getting stuck on the side of the wall. The whole process related to being a, to becoming pregnant.

And I remember watching that video and thinking in order for a person to get pregnant, like nine miracles have to happen in a row for a pregnancy to successfully happen, let alone be carried to term. And uh, as an 18 year old kid, I was watching this and I said to my professor like how amazing it was that any human being gets born, and the professor said, yes, Elliot. That’s why you should never forget, every human you means is the result of a miracle. Every person you meet is a walking, talking miracle. And I never forgot that. And now as I’m walking around the campus, a teaching about roof there for today, it reminds me that for example, when we asked the miracle question, not only is it important that you word the question appropriately in terms of the miracle question and, and, and you can sleep at night, the miracle happened that solves your problems and what they will notice or whatever iteration you want to ask.

It’s also important that you remember that the person you’re talking to is a miracle who is capable of more miracles. Because if you don’t ask from that perspective, then the question is just a question. So I want to really encourage you and I want to really implore you to treat every single client as if they are walking, talking miracle. Because it’s going to make your work as a solution focused therapist, more efficient, more effective, and it’s going to make your languaging of the miracle question and all of the questions actually associated with solution focused. Brief therapy is going to make them more convenient because again, it’s not just important that we use the techniques. It’s also important that we have the proper mindset as we use the language associated with these questions, so never forget that your client is a walking, talking miracle who is capable of more miracles and it’s going to influence the way you talk to. It’s going to influence what you ask them the miracle question, so carry that with you and remember everybody you mean from this point forward is a walking, talking miracle, and treat them as such. Thanks for watching this video. Please give me a like give me shared. Leave a comment. I love hearing and interacting with people in the comment section and I look forward to seeing you in the next video and never forget you are just one question away from making a difference in someone’s life. I’ll see you soon.