This word should be removed from your vocabulary

What’s up and welcome to today’s edition of Solutions Every Eay. I’m your boy Elliott Connie. And so listen, I had a really, really cool day, super long, but a really cool day where I got to think about some things and there’s one word that I think we should all remove from vocabulary or one phrase that we should all remove from our vocabulary, right this minute. And it’s the word/phrase ‘self-made’.

You know, I’ve accomplished a lot of things in my life. Like I’ve run a huge business and I got a team and I’ve had some success and I’ve gotten degrees and I’ve published books. I’ve done all these things, but the one term that I really, really struggle with is self-made. And so let me catch you up to today, what happened today? I very much consider myself a by-product of my Mom, who, I mean, I wouldn’t have all these degrees and accomplishments and all that stuff if my Mom didn’t love me and give into me. And then I was able to have a really long talk today with an old friend.

When I opened my first therapy practice, I moved to an area called Keller, Texas, and there was a woman there named Marcene who, I don’t know what it was, but Marcene thought I was a good Counselor and thought I was a good resources to the students in Keller, Texas. She worked at the local school district and she would refer families to me at a time where it’s like, I mean, I got into Therapy because I really loved helping people, but you know, I’m running a therapy business, I got my private practice and Marcene was a tremendous resource who would refer clients to me. And I remember feeling so grateful and thankful to Marcene.

And I remember feeling so honored that she would trust me with her families in the Keller school district. And I also remember feeling like that was the number one thing I needed, like someone to trust me and send me clients Marcene and I, over the years developed a really great friendship. And today we got to meet and just kind of reminisce on, you know, all those things that were going on all those years ago.

And then today, also later this evening, I had a chance to talk to a woman named Leslie, who is also like a really close friend. I consider her like a sister and she was my first employee. I remember when the world was becoming kind of a digital world. I had this website, it’s kind of a starter website and Leslie had technical skill. And she’s one of the smartest people that I’ve ever known.

So Leslie can learn anything quickly. And I said to Leslie, I need you to help me build like a digital stage, like a digital microphone to help me kind of share my message in the digital world. And, I mean, I didn’t have any money at the time. There were some times Leslie would work without getting paid and she worked because she believed in me.

And then of course, you know, there’s like a higher power. You know, if you’re like me, you believe in God and you believe that there’s a higher power that’s playing a significant role in the way things pan out. So I struggle with the term. self-made like, I see, you know, this person is a, self-made millionaire. This person’s a self-made such and such, and I’ve never met anyone, anyone at all who has accomplished anything on their own. And I just told you about Leslie and Marcene and God in my life. And in the way that all these things have come together to help my life be transformed.

You know, I had a conversation with somebody on social media today, where I was talking about how we help clients change. And this person said we don’t help clients change. They change on their own. That’s ridiculous. I mean, no one does anything on their own. We, we all need support and guidance and belief. We need someone to lean on. This whole idea of self-made is just ridiculous. You’re not, you’re not by bragging or stronger because like I did it on my own. I did it with Leslie’s help. I did it with Marcenes help. I did it with God’s help. I and loads of other people, my Mom, I mean, my Aunt, like it just loads of people have been a part of my success and a part of my accomplishments.

And I think it’s a wonderful way to live life because then you’re appreciative and you’re humbled. And you experienced the good things happening to you in a very, very different way. And I’m not going to list all the people that have invested in me cause I would surely leave people off and that would, of course, make me feel bad.

But one of the things that I’m definitely going to say is it’s a wonderful thing to recognize that you didn’t get to where you are on your own and to have a level of appreciation and gratitude about those things is absolutely magic and game changing. So take a moment today. Like here’s my request I think, or advice, suggestion, whatever. Let’s take a moment today to just think about the people who’ve been a part of your journey and how they’ve helped you get to where you are.

I can’t think of a whole lot of things in this world, more powerful than gratitude. So the best way to express gratitude is experience it and just take a moment to think who is a part of my journey towards getting that degree or overcoming that challenge or, you know, winning that internal battle or whatever it might be.

Just kind of think about it for a second and put yourself in a frame of mind where you’re willing to be vulnerable, even with yourself and thinking about the people that helped you get to where you got. We got to kind of get rid of this idea of self-made because number one, we didn’t get on our own number two, our clients don’t get to where they’re going on their own. We all need inspiration, guidance, whatever. No one can do anything on your own.

So just take a moment to think about all the people that have loved you. Cherished you, held you up, pushed you, inspired you think of all the people that are responsible for the positive aspects of your journey, because I think that’s a truly life-changing experience.

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